Situation - You want to know how the other person is going to LOVE you.
When someone wants to LOVE the toss with you,
it
can be made easier by following the suggestions on this page.
Love is a difficult subject.
This page has been requested by the cohort - the site is geared more to how to deal with people in a business, family etc. situation. Welcome to the Cantankerous Explorer™.
1. Can it be the Director - ESTJ?
General Principle to be aware of: They want things 'my way or the highway' and micromanage.
Requirements:
♥ 1. Quality Time.
♥ 2. Physical Affection.
♥ 3. Acts of Service.
♥ 4. Words of Affirmation.
They are impressed when you:
♥ 1. Help them out.
♥ 2. See and hear them for who they truly are.
♥ 3. Show affection.
♥ 4. Pay attention to the details.
♥ 5. Take time to be together.
Oxor™ - See Themselves At Their Greatest™:
Excellent administrator who is unsurpassed at managing both things and people.
Oxor™ - See Themselves At Their Undiluted Worst™:
Their way is the only way. They sink ships to prove that they are correct. Reacts as if a disruption to order is a massive blow to their head. Pities everyone for being so stupid. They are not liked.
2. Can it be the Developer - ENTJ?
General Principle to be aware of: They are a bully and trample over people.
Requirements:
♥ 1. Quality Time.
♥ 2. Physical Touch.
They are impressed when you:
♥ 1. Have deep conversations.
♥ 2. Cause them to be truly seen and heard.
♥ 3. Following through on your word. Be reliable.
♥ 4. Show affection.
♥ 5. Ask them questions.
♥ 6. Show that you understand them.
Oxor™ - See Themselves At Their Greatest™:
A bold, imaginative and strong willed leader. Always finds a way or creates one.
Oxor™ - See Themselves At Their Undiluted Worst™:
Deploys constant verbal attacks. Has no problem in calling you a good-for-nothing if you dare oppose their will. They think that they are the shepherd that everyone needs.
3. Can it be the Results - ESTP?
General Principle to be aware of: They are a huge risk taker in all aspects of life.
Requirements:
♥ 1. Physical Affection.
♥ 2. Quality Time.
They are impressed when you:
♥ 1. Give them affection and intimacy.
♥ 2. Laugh.
♥ 3. Be present with them. Show undivided attention.
♥ 4. Listening without judgement.
♥ 5. Give compliments. They like to be seen as the hero.
Oxor™ - See Themselves At Their Greatest™:
A smart, energetic and very perceptive person who truly enjoys living on the absolute edge.
Oxor™ - See Themselves At Their Undiluted Worst™:
Has the manner of "You follow MY lead, okay sunshine?" They seduce you to take stupid risks.
4. Can it be the Inspirational - ENTP?
General Principle to be aware of: They are sneaky, argumentative and Machiavellian.
Requirements:
♥ 1. Quality Time.
♥ 2. Physical Affection.
♥ 2. Acts of Service.
They are impressed when you:
♥ 1. Give affection.
♥ 2. Empathise.
♥ 3. Show undivided attention.
♥ 4. Share ideas.
♥ 5. Give respect especially for new and wacky ideas.
Oxor™ - See Themselves At Their Greatest™:
A smart and curious thinker who cannot resist an intellectual challenge.
Oxor™ - See Themselves At Their Undiluted Worst™:
Will never drop an argument without winning which makes them a formidable opponent. Has or shows arrogant superiority to and disdain of those whose views are deemed unworthy. Will twist and bend the truth and give false information when necessary. Basically, they cannot be trusted.
5. Can it be the Persuader - ENFJ?
General Principle to be aware of: They are super manipulative and lie.
Requirements:
♥ 1. Words of Affirmation.
♥ 2. Quality Time.
They are impressed when you:
♥ 1. Show genuine appreciation.
♥ 2. Give hugs and physical touch.
♥ 3. Affirm their values.
♥ 4. Give thoughtful presents.
♥ 5. Participate in emotional and intellectual conversations.
Oxor™ - See Themselves At Their Greatest™:
A charismatic and inspiring leader of causes who is able to mesmerize their apostle like followers.
Oxor™ - See Themselves At Their Undiluted Worst™:
They see themselves as the reason that others are successful. That think that other people owe them the action to learn how to be greatful for their efforts, which is most often not remotely the case. They manipulate, par excellence. And lie.
6. Can it be the Appraiser - ESFJ
General Principle to be aware of: They are everyone's friend.
Requirements:
♥ 1. Quality Time.
♥ 2. Acts of Service.
They are impressed when you:
♥ 1. Spend time together.
♥ 2. Talk and phone them.
♥ 3. Hug.
♥ 4. Listen to them without trying to fix anything.
♥ 5. Give specific acknowledgement of their efforts.
Oxor™ - See Themselves At Their Greatest™:
An extraordinarily caring and popular person who is both very social and eager to help.
Oxor™ - See Themselves At Their Undiluted Worst™:
They see themselves as the human elite. They will ruin your life if you so much as inconvenience them.
7. Can it be the Promoter - ENFP?
General Principle to be aware of: They are totally unreliable.
Requirements:
♥ 1. Quality Time.
♥ 2. Words of Affirmation.
They are impressed when you:
♥ 1. Give them freedom.
♥ 2. Confide in them.
♥ 3. Go on adventures.
♥ 4. Show affection with physical touch and closeness.
♥ 5. Listen attentively.
♥ 6. Are 100% authentic with them.
Oxor™ - See Themselves At Their Greatest™:
An enthusiastic, creative and sociable free spirit who can always find a reason to smile.
Oxor™ - See Themselves At Their Undiluted Worst™:
They see themselves as the peacekeeper. They overestimate their own worth and never seem to get dizzy on the high moral ground. They never finish anything.
8. Can it be the Counselor - ESFP
General Principle to be aware of: They are the centre of attention.
Requirements:
♥ 1. Words of Affirmation.
♥ 2. Physical Affection.
They are impressed when you:
♥ 1. Hug.
♥ 2. Seek them out and check in.
♥ 3. Show empathy.
♥ 4. Spend quality time together.
♥ 5. Laugh and show humour.
♥ 6. Give undevided attention.
Oxor™ - See Themselves At Their Greatest™:
An spontaneous, enthusiastic and energetic person whose life is never boring around them.
Oxor™ - See Themselves At Their Undiluted Worst™:
They will shame other people for being different - e.g. not wanting to be the centre of attention. They cannot undestand why all are not like them. They are disorganized and easily bored.
9. Can it be the Specialist - ISFP
General Principle to be aware of: They are the arty farty one.
Requirements:
♥ 1. Quality Time.
♥ 2. Being Together.
♥ 3. Affirmation.
They are impressed when you:
♥ 1. Listen without judgement.
♥ 2. Accept them as they are.
♥ 3. Show affection.
♥ 4. Help with boring and routine tasks.
Oxor™ - See Themselves At Their Greatest™:
The flexible and charming artist who is always ready to explore and to experience something new.
Oxor™ - See Themselves At Their Undiluted Worst™:
They will display moral superiority and will judge other people's deepest values and beliefs. They have a private and public image and can create conflict when they do not mean to. Then they may simply try to avoid it. They hate feedback and critique.
10. Can it be the Investigator - INFJ?
General Principle to be aware of: They are a contradiction.
Requirements:
♥ 1. Quality Time.
♥ 2. Words of Affirmation.
They are impressed when you:
♥ 1. Have deep and thought-provoking discussions.
♥ 2. Listen without judgment.
♥ 3. Help out with tasks.
♥ 4. Appreciate their empathy,acts of kindness and the sacrifices they make for others.
Oxor™ - See Themselves At Their Greatest™:
They are quiet and mystical but can very very inspiring and tireless idealists.
Oxor™ - See Themselves At Their Undiluted Worst™:
They will manipulate others into doing what they want them to do. They think that they are beloved for who they are. They contradict themselves all the time which confuses others. They can be introverted and quiet one minute and loud and boisterous the next. They can be kind and empathetic and, a short time later, be cold and calculating. They will door slam.
11. Can it be the Agent - INFP?
General Principle to be aware of: They are in La La Land.
Requirements:
♥ 1. Quality Time.
♥ 2. Words of Affirmation.
They are impressed when you:
♥ 1. Give unconditional acceptance.
♥ 2. Understand and showing curiosity about their value.
♥ 3. Give written expressions of love.
♥ 4. Give them space and alone time.
♥ 5. Provide soft, thoughtful gestures of physical affection.
♥ 6. Offer reassurance that they are good just as they are.
Oxor™ - See Themselves At Their Greatest™:
They are poetic, quiet and altruistic whi are always eager to help a good cause.
Oxor™ - See Themselves At Their Undiluted Worst™:
They project the 'holier than thou' mentality. They are both self-pitiful and self-righteous. They say a lot but are very poor on the action . They are whiners, el grande. They are unsatisfiable.
12. Can it be the Achiever - ISTP?
General Principle to be aware of: They are the fixer of anything.
Requirements:
♥ 1. Physical Affection.
♥ 2. Quality Time.
They are impressed when you:
♥ 1. Acknowledge and respect their independence.
♥ 2. Give intimacy.
♥ 3. Give freedom to be themselves.
♥ 4. Share day-to-day experiences.
♥ 5. Agree to disagree.
♥ 6. Laugh together.
Oxor™ - See Themselves At Their Greatest™:
They are bold and practical experimenters who are masters of the tools.
Oxor™ - See Themselves At Their Undiluted Worst™:
They will silently judge others for everything they do and make sure that the other person knows it. They have a terrible temper.
13. Can it be the Practitioner - ISFJ?
General Principle to be aware of: They are the fixer of anything.
Requirements:
♥ 1. Words of Affirmation.
♥ 2. Quality Time.
They are impressed when you:
♥ 1. Give emotional support.
♥ 2. Do small kind gestures.
♥ 3. Share family stories and experiences.
♥ 4. Ignore your phone when it rings.
Oxor™ - See Themselves At Their Greatest™:
They are dedicated and warm protectors. They are particularly ready to defend their loved ones.
Oxor™ - See Themselves At Their Undiluted Worst™:
They have the martyr complex. They will throw sh1t at you if you do not take heed of them. They think that they are doing what is best for the other person, which may well not be the case. They are abjectly hopeless leaders and managers as they cannot handle conflict and criticism and are the market leaders in passive-aggressive behaviour.
14. Can it be the Objective Thinker - ISTJ?
General Principle to be aware of: They are the duty fulfiller.
Requirements:
♥ 1. Quality Time.
♥ 2. Acts of Service.
They are impressed when you:
♥ 1. Give them space.
♥ 2. Are 100% honest 100% of the time.
♥ 3. Are loyal on a two way basis.
♥ 4. Show appreciation for effort.
Oxor™ - See Themselves At Their Greatest™:
They are practical and fact-minded people whose reliability can never be doubted.
Oxor™ - See Themselves At Their Undiluted Worst™:
They think that other people are morons and cannot understand why others cannot be more like them. They are extremely rigid, inflexible and stubborn. They do not like sudden changes in plans.
15. Can it be the Perfectionist - INTP?
General Principle to be aware of: They are the academic nerd.
Requirements:
♥ 1. Quality Time.
♥ 2. Words of Affirmation.
They are impressed when you:
♥ 1. Listen and engage with their endless streams of thoughts and ideas.
♥ 2. Give them freedom to be themselves.
♥ 3. Paticipate in intellectual sparring.
♥ 4. Encourage.
♥ 5. Show affection.
♥ 6. Write heartfelt notes.
Oxor™ - See Themselves At Their Greatest™:
They are innovative inventors with an unquenchable thirst for knowledge.
Oxor™ - See Themselves At Their Undiluted Worst™:
They see themselves as being incarnated with intellectual superiority. Thet resent everyone and considers that anyone who does not think for themselves as just following the herd. They have no social skills. They have absolutely no practical aptitude whatsoever. Try having them check their tyres.
16. Can it be the Enhancer - INTJ?
General Principle to be aware of: They are the most difficult to get to know.
Requirements:
♥ 1. Quality Time.
♥ 2. Acts of Service.
They are impressed when you:
♥ 1. Haveng deep conversations with zero small talk. Want 'mind mates'.
♥ 2. Give them space.
♥ 3. Listen.
♥ 4. Share dreams and plans together.
♥ 5. Help out to save them time.
♥ 6. Accept them for who they are as being the most misunderstood. They appreciate a
partner who loves them and does not try to change them.
Oxor™ - See Themselves At Their Greatest™:
They are the imaginative and strategic thinker with a plan for absolutely everything.
Oxor™ - See Themselves At Their Undiluted Worst™:
They operate such that anyone who they think is not on their level is not worth communciating with. They really give people a hard time for making the same mistake again. They are often seen as the strong, silent type who would rather go swimming in a vat of vinegar than go to a party. They have tall walls and are extraordinarily difficult to get to know.