When someone wants to connect with the other person
it can be made easier by following the suggestions on this page.

Connect!

Connecting can be difficult, but we all have to do it.

Firstly, in this section, CHECK THE LEVELS BETWEEN YOURSELF AND THE OTHER PERSON!

It is best if both are on the same level. The further away the level, the worst it gets.

People who usually do not get along are usually from the polar-opposite levels - 1 up against 4; 4 up against 1.

Levels 2 and 3 tend to get along well and act as the bridge between the two polar (1 and 4) levels.

Level 1: Director, Results, Appraiser and Counselor.

Level 2: Specialist, Achiever, Practitioner and Objective Thinker.

Level 3: Developer, Inspirational, Persuader and Promoter.

Level 4: Investigator, Agent, Perfectionist, Enhancer.

Where are you today? Horizontal, Perpendicular or Level?

Conducted and composed by Modern Maven Elizabeth Hunter™ - Last Update August 21, 2021

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1. Can it be the Director - ESTJ?

The Director is the Border Collie

General Principles to follow: Connecting with the Director means taking the time to prove that you are trustworthy and authentic. This pattern does not spare time for anyone who has a hint of manipulative or dishonest energy. Trust can be established by making commitments and following through on them, being honest about your scruples and staying level-headed in the face of difficulty. If a deeper or stronger connection with a Director is desired, then get involved with their goals. Ask them about their hopes and see if there is a way to contribute! For example, if they are planning a garage sale, ask to put price tags on things. Often they bond with others through work projects or causes that serve their communities. But that does not mean that they do not also like to play. Many enjoy gathering with friends to watch sports events, do recreational activities or even just go out to a good restaurant.

Activities That Encourage Connection:
π Working on a task together.
π Meeting up for a meal or coffee together.
π Helping them with a practical task.
π Doing a recreational activity together (kayaking, fishing, Frisbee, etc,.).
π Going to a movie or concert together.
π Camping or have a bonfire together.
π Sharing practical tips to everyday problems together.
π Cooking or baking together.
π Supporting each other in a cause or community service.
π Asking their advice and listening respectfully to their thoughts.
π Competitive activities like games or sports.

Activities That Discourage Connection:
π Dishonesty or manipulation.
π Disrupting their plans.
π Being late to planned events or meetings.
π Being emotionally hypersensitive.
π Bending things they say and taking them out of context.
π Being wishy-washy.
π Laziness or procrastination.
π Being passive-aggressive or giving the silent treatment instead of addressing problems directly.

Distinct Factor Set A - Propensity to Never Give Up:
π Driven to meet their goals and responsibilities each day.
π Loyal and hard-working, can painstakingly work through problems with a diligence that many other patterns struggle to maintain.
π Possess a strong will to do well, but also practical enough to know that “practice makes perfect.”
π If failure happens the first time tried, will not be surprised because aware that that is how life typically goes. Not afraid to work at something, try and fail, then try again because each time attempted, it will be getting closer to having it correct.

Distinct Factor Set B - Who would have thought?:
π Your Director scores higher on Self-Acceptance on the California Psychological Inventory tool in comparison with other MBTI types. This means that the Director tends to have a good opinion of themselves, sees themselves as talented and personally attractive.

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2. Can it be the Developer - ENTJ?

The Developer is the German Shepherd

General Principles to follow: Connecting with a Developer means cutting past a lot of the small-talk that other types need to get comfortable. They hate wasting time on pretense or chit-chat; they usually have a hundred things they need or want to do, so having something interesting to say or do is essential. They usually connect by sharing goals or ideas with others. Highly ambitious, they enjoy discussing their hopes and objectives and hearing about others’ hopes as well. They also enjoy probing the more abstract depths of life; is there an interesting new theory that you have discovered? Have you learned something new about the nature of the universe or the human mind? Bring these topics up! They are curious about the world and are drawn to intellectual topics of conversation. They often connect over activities and projects as well; particularly if those projects have to do with a shared value. Volunteering for a cause can be a great way to really get to know a Developer's heart.

Activities That Encourage Connection:
π Discuss your goals and objectives for the future.
π Watch a TED Talk together.
π Share life-changing thoughts from the books you have read or podcasts you have listened to recently.
π Play a strategy game together.
π Volunteer for a cause that is close to your hearts.
π Do something recreational and challenging (rock climbing, white-water rafting, or an obstacle course, etc,.)

Activities That Discourage Connection:
π Filling time with chit-chat or small-talk that has no real future purpose.
π Texting excessively about mundane things.
π Being emotionally needy or clingy.
π Being manipulative or dishonest.
π Not having shared values.
π Being disinterested in discussing theoretical or abstract topics.
π Being disinterested in personal growth or hard work.
π Complaining.
π Being lazy or undependable.
π Showing up late to a planned meeting.

Distinct Factor Set A - Propensity to Never Give Up:
π Dauntless and bold, gets a thrill from a challenge rather than shying away from one.
π Can easily cut past the noise of the world around (the bulltish) and come up with efficient solutions or logical strategies.
π Unfraid to be assertive to go after what is wanted.
π Ambition and varied interests keep them invested in what life has to offer.

Distinct Factor Set B - Who would have thought?:
π Your Developer, according to neuroscience expert Dario Nardi, uses their brain in energy-efficient ways, relying on primarily on seeing measurable elements, hearing words and making decisions. This helps the Developer to be active in many hours of the day and make quick decisions on-the-go with plausible and logical explanations.

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3. Can it be the Results - ESTP?

The Results is the Jack Russell Terrier

General Principles to follow: Connecting with a Results means getting off the couch and actually doing something interactive. That could mean taking a walk or it could mean attending a concert! For the Results, life is meaningful when it is filled with interactivity and action. You will get to know them better when you do something with them rather than just talk at them. Discussion becomes easier when they have something to do with their hands – whether they are driving, playing a game or even cooking! Connect over fun experiences, daring challenges or intellectual exchanges of interesting facts and ideas.

Activities That Encourage Connection:
π Playing a game together (tabletop, card or video game).
π Going to an event together (concert, show, etc,.).
π Listening to each other’s favorite songs.
π Swapping jokes and have a good sense of humour.
π Cooking or baking something together (be willing to experiment instead of strictly following a recipe!).
π Playing at an old-fashioned arcade.
π Doing something creative together.
π Learning how something works together.

Activities That Discourage Connection:
π Phony or manipulative behaviour.
π Taking yourself too seriously.
π Not having a sense of humor.
π Being too sedentary.
π Being self-righteous or punitive.
π Being illogical or over-reactive emotionally.
π Being impractical.
π Being overbearing or pushy.
π Over-scheduling their time.

Distinct Factor Set A - Propensity to Never Give Up:
π Fascinated with all the opportunities and experiences around them.
π While certain patterns have tunnel vision and hyper-fixate on one thing, they are someone who can point out several incredible experiences to be enjoyed in the immediate vicinity. π Fun-loving and realistic and knows that it will do no good to dwell on failures or mistakes of the past.
π Tries to keep their eyes firmly on the present and do what they can to optimize their own and others’ experiences.
π Resilience and flexibility allows them to roll with the punches much more smoothly than many other patterns can.

Distinct Factor Set B - Who would have thought?:
π Your Results scored higher on Dominance on the California Psychological Inventory tool, in comparison to other MBTI types. This means that the Results is typically more confident, assertive and task-oriented than the average person.

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4. Can it be the Inspirational - ENTP?

The Inspirational is the Bull Terrier

General Principles to follow: Connecting with an Inspirational means entering a brain space where there are no rules or limits to what can be explored. They enjoy debating theories, hypothesizing about possibilities or doing things that challenge them mentally. Through these intellectual exercises, they are able to then open up and discuss more personal matters over time. They want to feel connected to others and they enjoy warm and energetic interactions. Having a sense of humour, fun and possibility is crucial. People who are too uptight or focussed on doing things “by the book” can get on their nerves.

Activities That Encourage Connection:
π Playing a tabletop strategy game.
π Brainstorming ideas and possibilities.
π Taking a class together.
π Practicing a new skill together (archery, programming, even cooking!).
π Debating a controversial topic together (without fear of offense).
π Going to a comedy club together/doing something that will make you laugh.
π Putting together a puzzle and talking.
π Playing a video game together.

Activities That Discourage Connection:
π Limiting their ability to brainstorm or think outside the box.
π Being narrow-minded or quick to judge.
π Being hypersensitive (too easy to offend).
π Being manipulative or dishonest.
π Not having a sense of humor.
π Having a “holier than thou” attitude.
π Spending an inordinate amount of time explaining details that are insignificant in the big picture.

Distinct Factor Set A - Propensity to Never Give Up:
π Never gives up because they have an enterprising, resourceful spirit that triumphs against unexpected trials.
π As a dominant intuitive they believe that in the midst of chaos the most original and creative solutions can be found.
π Enjoys a challenge and is not afraid to be outspoken and assertive in order to get what they want in life.

Distinct Factor Set B - Who would have thought?:
π Your Inspirational scored higher on Achievement via Independence than other patterns on the California Psychological Inventory tool. This means that the Inspirational has a strong drive to do well and take individual initiative. They show clear-thinking and work best when given freedom.

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5. Can it be the Persuader - ENFJ?

The Persuader is the Boxer

General Principles to follow: The Persuader connects with others through meaningful conversation and activities. For some, this means discussing topics like religion, psychology or ethics. For others, it means helping out in a soup kitchen or cleaning beaches and parks to make a positive impact on the world. The truth is, they want to share their insights with others and hear others’ insights and perspectives as well. They want to know the background reasons that people think and act in the ways that they do. They enjoy watching movies and discussing what was meaningful about the movie, or listening to songs and exploring why the song made them feel a certain way. That said, they also enjoy connecting over fun, light-hearted activities such as dancing, concerts or recreation. Mixing up a meaningful conversation with some fun, action-oriented activities keeps things exciting and interesting for them.

Activities That Encourage Connection:
π Listening to each other’s favorite songs.
π Watching movies and discussing them afterward.
π Going for long drives and talking.
π Playing a tabletop social game.
π Doing a fun sensory activity - dancing, going to a concert or cooking together.
π Making inspiration boards or mapping out goals together.
π Having vulnerable, raw, heart-to-heart conversations.
π Volunteering for a cause together.

Activities That Discourage Connection:
π Manipulativeness or dishonesty.
π Judgmental behavior.
π Disinterest in personal growth or in-depth discussion.
π Tactlessness or insensitivity.
π Hypersensitivity (getting too easily offended).
π Lack of shared values.
π Cold, secretive behavior.
π Inability to see things from others’ perspectives.

Distinct Factor Set A - Propensity to Never Give Up:
π Creates dreams and ideas for the future and stops at nothing to achieve them.
π Takes their responsibilities to others seriously.
π Many times, will think of others when faced with dire situations.
π Knows that keeping their head up can inspire others to do the same when they face unexpected challenges.
π Possesses the visionary spirit to see past present-day setbacks to possibilities in the future.

Distinct Factor Set B - Who would have thought?:
π Your Persuader scored higher on Social Presence on the California Psychological Inventory tool, in comparison to other MBTI types. This means that the Persuader shows a tendency toward self-assuredness, versatility, spontaneity and verbal fluency.

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6. Can it be the Appraiser - ESFJ

The Appraiser is the Great Dane

General Principles to follow: Connecting with an Appraiser means sharing each other’s values or at least trying to understand them. It means remembering special occasions, respecting their traditions and making traditions of your own together. Creating meaningful routines and celebrations helps them to feel an ever-growing bond with you. This could be as simple as getting coffee together every Monday morning or as complex as forming a charity for a cause that lies close to your hearts. Mostly, they need to feel that their friends and relationships are there for them to discuss feelings and thoughts openly. Tactfulness, openness, friendliness and dependability are crucial.

Activities That Encourage Connection:
π Conversation over a meal or coffee.
π Texting and asking questions about their day (without being overbearing).
π Helping them with a practical task.
π Supporting each other in a cause or community service.
π Watching movies together.
π Listening to each other’s favourite songs.
π Playing a social tabletop game like Apples to Apples or Telestrations.
π Camping or having a bonfire together.
π Sharing practical tips and solutions to everyday problems.

Activities That Discourage Connection:
π Being secretive or withholding.
π Being tactless or inconsiderate.
π Being late or disrespecting their time.
π Disrupting their plans.
π Taking them for granted.
π Showing little interest/concern for others.
π Being wishy-washy or moody.
π Being lazy or undependable.

Distinct Factor Set A - Propensity to Never Give Up:
π Has a natural sense of responsibility for your family, community, friends, or social group.
π Often does not give up because they want to set a positive example for others.
π The vital thing to remember for them is to take time to process, rest and recharge even when they have a lot to do.
π Tends to overwork themselves for others.
π With time and proper self-care, they are the kind of person who can persevere under any hardship, especially if they are working in support of a cause or group of people they believe in and care for.

Distinct Factor Set B - Who would have thought?:
π Your Appraiser scores higher on Achievement via Conformance on the California Psychological Inventory tool in comparison to other patterns. This means that the Appraiser has a strong desire to do well, enjoy working in settings with clear definitions and expectations and are typically efficient and well-organized.

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7. Can it be the Promoter - ENFP?

The Promoter is the Golden Retriever

General Principles to follow: The Promoter connects through exploring ideas and possibilities with other individuals. To get to know them means to embark on a journey to vivid, hypothetical worlds where anything can happen. To connect, you have to be willing to imagine and think outside the box. You cannot connect if you are constantly trying to get off the train and run back to the world of the “known.” Anything that provides a sense of possibility will excite the Promoter. Brainstorming, reading a new book together, driving somewhere you have never been, making art; anything that sparks creativity and imagination is a hit. At the same time, being real and authentic is crucial. They are quick to sniff out any hint of pretense or manipulation. They need to be able to trust you before they can connect with you.

Activities That Encourage Connection:
π Listening to each other’s favorite songs.
π Watching movies or TV shows together and discussing them afterward.
π Reading together.
π Taking a road trip somewhere new.
π Going thrift store shopping to find weird, original, or forgotten treasures.
π Creating art together.
π Playing! Do laser tag, build an elaborate sandcastle or drive some go-karts!.
π Take a class together.
π Share bucket list ideas.

Activities That Discourage Connection:
π Being closed-minded or judgmental.
π Managing their time for them.
π Being too nosy or meddling.
π Shutting down their ideas.
π Trying to make them behave a certain way.
π Being unwilling to experiment or try new things.
π Being inconsiderate or overly-critical.

Distinct Factor Set A - Propensity to Never Give Up:
π Never gives up because they nearly always see alternatives, possibilities and potential in the world.
π While other people might feel the walls are closing in on them, they can nearly always find a window of opportunity.
π In the midst of the unexpected their best ideas and insights often come to light.
π Possesses the inner resolve and outer creativity to innovate in the midst of calamity.

Distinct Factor Set B - Who would have thought?:
π Your Promoter scores higher on intellectual efficiency on the California Psychological Inventory tool relative to other MBTI types. This means the Promoter shows an efficient use of intellectual abilities and can stay on task and use resources wisely when others might give up.

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8. Can it be the Counselor - ESFP

The Counselor is the Poodle

General Principles to follow: Connecting with the Counselor means allowing them to get to know you through shared experiences and adventures. Go to the beach, attend a concert, volunteer together or take a last-minute trip to somewhere new and exciting. They appreciate people who show them something new and live it up in the moment with them. They also bond with people over authentic, real, honest communication. Do not try to pretend to be anything you are not with a Counselor – they will usually know.

Activities That Encourage Connection:
π Sharing favorite music/songs together.
π Trying new, unusual restaurants.
π Playing social tabletop games together.
π Doing volunteer work together.
π Having a movie marathon together (complete with snacks).
π Doing something recreational (rock climbing, dancing, kayaking, etc,.).
π Driving around and talking while listening to music.
π Making pizzas together with your own unique/favourite toppings.

Activities That Discourage Connection:
π Dishonesty/manipulation.
π Narrow-mindedness or quick judgments.
π Critical, harsh words.
π Making too many demands on their time.
π Overwhelming them with numerous texts/calls.
π Being unaware of what is relevant in a conversation.
π Expecting them to make commitments to things very quickly.
π Unwillingness to try new things.

Distinct Factor Set A - Propensity to Never Give Up:
π Realistic and energetic, they are someone who looks for the nugget of beauty and joy to be extracted from every moment (even if it is something simple such as a sunrise or a simmering cup of coffee).
π Has a playful, fun-loving spirit and tries not to let the negatives of life bog them down for too long.
π Knows that they do not have to look too far to find a rich experience waiting to be lived out in their life.
π Likes to let go of past mistakes and re-focus energy on the present moment where they can do some real good.

Distinct Factor Set B - Who would have thought?:
π Your Counselor is quick to integrate body and sensory information and are "highly capable at physical, concrete tasks, especially tactile and physical multitasking" according to neuroscience expert Dario Nardi.

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9. Can it be the Specialist - ISFP

The Specialist is the Saint Bernard

General Principles to follow: Connection with the Specialist is forged during those quiet, trusting moments when there is no pressure to be “on” for anyone. When they can be truly themselves in the stillness and not have to pretend or meet any unsaid expectations. Connection also forms during intimate conversations, shared songs and experiences that make the heart race. For the Specialist, hours of chit-chat are rarely where the connection happens. Sharing a playlist, driving beneath the stars or being creative with someone will always have more impact. Even more, doing something that aligns with one of their deeply-held values will create a bond.

Activities That Encourage Connection:
π Listening to music together.
π Doing a creative project together.
π Watching a movie or television series together.
π Participating in a cause together (volunteering, helping teaching).
π Doing a low-key recreational activity together while talking.
π Making music together, even if you do not know how to play any instruments.
π Trying new foods together or baking and cooking together.
π Playing tourist in your hometown together.
π Having a spa night together.

Activities That Discourage Connection:
π Manipulative or dishonest behaviour.
π Narrow-mindedness or quick judgments.
π Critical, harsh words.
π Overly-scheduled time.
π Being pressured to “be” something for others.
π Pushiness or micro-managing.
π Hypocrisy.
π Disinterest in their feelings or projects.
π Negativity and pessimism.

Distinct Factor Set A - Propensity to Never Give Up:
π Prizes own freedom and follows their own course.
π More than trying to fit in with the masses they care about living in alignment with their own personal convictions.
π Is guided by a sturdy core of inner values and will do whatever it takes to be true to self.
π Possesses high hopes for self and refuses to settle for less than what they are really capable of.
π Needs moments to pause and emotionally come to terms with setbacks and disappointments, has the grit and inner passion to get back on their feet again once they have had time to process.

Distinct Factor Set B - Who would have thought?:
π Your Specialist shows high activity in brain regions T3 and T4, which process language including diction, grammar and voice tone according to neuroscience expert Dario Nardi. He says they "rely heavily on voice tone to hear other people’s intentions when evaluating a person’s authenticity or the morality of a situation."

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10. Can it be the Investigator - INFJ?

The Investigator is the Greyhound

General Principles to follow: Connecting with an Investigator means being honest, open-minded and curious. They crave intellectual as well as empathic data – Who are you? What do you care about? What matters to you? What thoughts tickle your imagination and make you curious? Being friendly and warm helps them to feel comfortable with you, but you will really get to know them through thought-provoking conversations and sharing feelings and values. Low-pressure activities and comforting routines can help them to relax and connect emotionally without feeling overwhelmed or anxious.

Activities That Encourage Connection:
π Discussing favourite books and movies.
π Listening to each other’s favorite songs.
π Enjoying calming sensory activities together like gardening, baking or bird-watching.
π Playing “The Question Game” and asking thought-provoking, deep questions.
π Taking a class together.
π Perusing a library or bookstore together.
π Volunteering for a cause together.

Activities That Discourage Connection:
π Being narrow-minded or quick to judge.
π Limiting their imagination or belittling their ideas.
π Being too loud, showy or attention-seeking.
π Over-scheduling or managing their time.
π Being manipulative or dishonest.
π Being too secretive/reserved and not sharing your feelings.
π Being passive-aggressive instead of directly airing grievances.
π Being short-tempered and moody.

Distinct Factor Set A - Propensity to Never Give Up:
π Strives to develop a clear vision about how best to serve the world around them.
π When struggles strike, they aim to see the lesson that can be learned from the pain they are dealing with.
π Has an ability to envision a life beyond the present moment which propel them forward past hardships and keep their eyes firmly planted on their goals.
π May need some time to grapple with the pain of setbacks and failures, they are insightful enough to see that there are new perspectives and ways of looking at the situation that can help them gain wisdom and resilience from it.

Distinct Factor Set B - Who would have thought?:
π Your Investigator scores higher on Achievement via Independence on the California Psychological Inventory tool in comparison with other MBTI types. This means that the Investigator often has a strong drive to do well and show a great amount of individual initiative, clear-thinking and intelligence.

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11. Can it be the Agent - INFP?

The Agent is the Tibetan Terrier

General Principles to follow: Moving slowly with the Agent is important. They will shy away from people who seem overly pushy, nosy or inquisitive. At the same time, they crave relationships and friendships that are intimate and authentic. Giving space while at the same time being real is crucial. They connect when they see that they can trust you and you are genuine. They connect when you take off the “social mask” and express your honest thoughts and feelings.

Activities That Encourage Connection:
π Listening to favorite songs together.
π Making art together (music, sculpture, drawing, painting etc,.).
π Talking about your favourite books in detail.
π Watching each other’s favorite movies.
π Volunteering for a cause together.
π Finding “comfort routines” together like making tea, meeting up for breakfast, going to the library, or other quiet, low-pressure activities.
π Going to a thrift store and finding forgotten treasures together.

Activities That Discourage Connection:
π Being too nosy, clingy or meddling.
π Labelling them/making assumptions.
π Managing their time for them.
π Being tactless or inconsiderate.
π Manipulating or having ulterior motives.
π Making quick judgments about people.
π Being narrow-minded.
π Limiting their imagination.

Distinct Factor Set A - Propensity to Never Give Up:
π In the midst of challenges, they rely on inner conviction and rich creativity to see things through.
π Passion is next to none and no matter how bleak life may get they can always take solace in their fertile imagination.
π When they are tapped into their intuition they can see creative solutions and possibilities even when the world around them seems chaotic and out-of-control.
π Possesses convictions and dreams they want to see realized and will not let anything get in the way of this.

Distinct Factor Set B - Who would have thought?:
π Your Agent scores higher on on Flexibility on the California Psychological Inventory tool in comparison with other MBTI types. This means that the Agent likes change and variety, are easily bored by routine and may be impatient, but they also tend to be clever and imaginative.

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12. Can it be the Achiever - ISTP?

The Achiever is the Bassett Hound

General Principles to follow: Connecting with an Achiever may seem tricky at first because of their more reserved demeanour. But if you can look past that, many enjoy getting to know others through shared interests and recreational activities. If you want to connect with them, be sure to take an active interest in what they are learning about or tinkering with. Are they a gamer? Perhaps you could swap stories from your games or try a game together. Do they enjoy playing sport? Maybe there is a sport you could play or watch together! The key for the Achiever is to engage their senses. Do not just sit and make chit-chat for hours on end (yawn). They would rather get to know people through an activity with chatting on the side. Also, do not take yourself too seriously – they appreciate people who are down-to-earth and casual.

Activities That Encourage Connection:
π Do something recreational together (fishing, kayaking, Frisbee, rock climbing, etc,.).
π Play a game together.
π Cook together.
π Go to the beach, hiking or any other outdoor space.
π Play a video game together remotely.
π Watch a movie together.
π Go to a concert together.
π Play cards and make conversation at the same time.

Activities That Discourage Connection:
π Being too nosy or meddling.
π Scheduling their time for them.
π Making too many demands on their time.
π Being uptight or too formal.
π Having no sense of humour.
π Being hypersensitive.
π Having no sense of adventure.
π Doing things by the book too much.
π Lack of interest in knowledge or learning.
π Manipulative or cloying behaviour.

Distinct Factor Set A - Propensity to Never Give Up:
π While some people freak out at the slightest problem, they are someone who enjoys the challenge of solving a new challenge (at least, if it is concrete).
π Their analytical, pragmatic perspective keeps them steady in tenuous situations where others might lose their grip.
π Are always focussed on what is around them and what can be done with it; how they can use their environment to optimize their current situation.
π Are realistic enough to know that your chances are low at succeeding at something the first time they try it. They know that they need to keep trying if they want to see results.

Distinct Factor Set B - Who would have thought?:
π Your Achiever is skilled at useful problem solving, trying out various angles and combining and adapting various techniques to fit a situation according to neuroscience expert Dario Nardi. They "look for and use leverage points to manage."

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13. Can it be the Practitioner - ISFJ?

The Practitioner is the Alaskan Malamute

General Principles to follow: Connecting with a Practitioner starts with honesty and consistency. Show that you are someone they can trust by being authentic and living up to your commitments. Give them personal space, do not push or pressure them and find low-key activities to do together. Some friendly small talk can help them get comfortable with you, paving the way for more in-depth and intimate discussion. Smile often, have a sense of humour and show up on time to scheduled outings. Respect their time while being attentive and understanding. These are all ways to put them at ease and connect over shared activities.

Activities That Encourage Connection:
π Cracking friendly jokes.
π Smiling and exuding warmth and friendliness.
π Being tactful and polite.
π Starting a conversation with small talk and veering into deeper discussion with time.
π Taking a class together.
π Discussing favorite books and movies.
π Listening to each other’s favorite songs.
π Doing low-key sensory activities together like gardening, hiking, baking or bird watching.
π Spending time in nature together.
π Asking about their interests and listening and asking questions.
π Doing a service project together (cleaning the beach or park, helping at an animal shelter, etc,.)

Activities That Discourage Connection:
π Being insensitive or tactless.
π Being too quiet/reserved and making them do the conversational heavy-lifting.
π Being hypersensitive/too quick to offend.
π Asking deeply personal questions too quickly.
π Belittling their interests.
π Being late.
π Being too loud, showy or attention-seeking.
π Over-scheduling their time.
π Calling them “too sensitive” or dismissing their feelings.
π Being secretive/withholding.
π Irresponsibility.

Distinct Factor Set A - Propensity to Never Give Up:
π "Slow and steady wins the race" is probably something they remind themselves of on a regular basis.
π Knows that steady, methodical dedication will get them further than rushing around trying to win at life in a hurry.
π Their focus on sustainability and caution allows them to avoid many of the roadblocks that others encounter on their way to their goals.
π Are a thorough, responsible individual and they know that success requires time and patience.
π A steady, long-term mindset gives them the strength to keep going when many others might burn out.

Distinct Factor Set B - Who would have thought?:
π Your Practitioner shows moderate to high activity in brain region T6. This area is focussed on considering the future and mapping out actions ahead of time.

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14. Can it be the Objective Thinker - ISTJ?

The Objective Thinker is the Bernese Mountain Dog

General Principles to follow: Connecting with the Objective Thinker means proving yourself honest, dependable and loyal. These types do not open up readily with people until trust has been established. Creating that bond of trust comes from sharing experiences together. Actions speak louder than words to this pattern. This means making plans together and being there on time every time. It means putting your phone down when you are together and really listening to what they have to say. It means treating people considerately even when it is difficult. It also means being authentic and honest, sometimes about vulnerable things. When it comes to activities, they enjoy discussing their interests and hobbies in-depth with people who are interested. You can also connect with them by discussing favorite books, perusing a library together or doing something recreational.

Activities That Encourage Connection:
π Take an interest in their work, career or hobbies.
π Discuss your favourite books and/or movies.
π Do a quiet recreational activity together (fishing, hiking, boating, etc,.).
π Go antique hunting or thrift store shopping to see what interesting things you can find.
π Go geocaching together!
π Have a picnic and watch the sunrise together.
π Bake or cook something together.
π Spend time in nature together and notice the details.

Activities That Discourage Connection:
π Emotional over-reactions.
π Dishonesty or manipulation.
π Impracticality.
π Prying too much early on in the friendship/relationship.
π Dismissing/invalidating their experiences.
π Being late to a planned meeting.
π Being wishy-washy or undependable.
π Being inconsiderate or insensitive to others.

Distinct Factor Set A - Propensity to Never Give Up:
π Has a strong sense of responsibility and are capable of working with sustained energy to accomplish thei goals.
π 'Steadfast' would be a word that many would use to describe them.
π Knows that methodical, steady progress will get them further than working in short bursts that fizzle out quickly.
π When they have finished up their to-do list, they know how to relax and rejuvenate with their favorite hobbies and routines.
π This balance of hard work and quiet refreshment keeps them going when others would burn out.

Distinct Factor Set B - Who would have thought?:
π Your Objective Thinker scores higher on Self-Control on the California Psychological Inventory tool compared with other MBTI types. This means that the Objective Thinker is skilled at controlling their emotions and temper and suppressing hostile feelings. They also pride themselves on self-discipline.

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15. Can it be the Perfectionist - INTP?

The Perfectionist is the Papillon

General Principles to follow: Connecting with the Perfectionist means being willing to start with the head before the heart on most occasions. These types enjoy exploring ideas, testing theories and learning how the world works. Connecting can be as simple as watching a TED Talk together or as fun as creating personalized song playlists for each other. While they may seem reserved and analytical, they also crave warm, easy-going connections. People who exude friendliness and authenticity are deeply special to them. Sometimes they just are not given a chance because people shy away from their more serious, introverted demeanor. Forming a bond means reaching across the silence to show them you actually care about what goes on in their mind.

Activities That Encourage Connection:
π Peruse a library together.
π Take a class together.
π Listen to each other’s favorite songs or watch each other’s favorite movies.
π Ask them how something works and get into the details together.
π Drive somewhere you have never been before.
π Be patient when they are thinking of a response to a question.
π Be comfortable with silence – realize it is not a sign of disinterest.
π Make them laugh and engage with them in a friendly way.

Activities That Discourage Connection:
π Manipulativeness or dishonesty.
π Narrow-mindedness.
π Hyper-sensitive emotional reactions.
π Poor listening skills.
π Being pushy or overbearing.
π Not being able to discuss abstract or theoretical matters.
π Over-scheduling their time.
π Overwhelming them with text messages early in the friendship/relationship.

Distinct Factor Set A - Propensity to Never Give Up:
π Has a skill at adapting to unexpected situations.
π While other patterns (particularly the Judging types) freak out when things unexpectedly change, they tend to roll with the punches and look for new opportunities.
π They are tough-minded and can troubleshoot even in the midst of tumultuous situations.
π Knows how to put their feelings aside and look at the facts and find outside-the-box solutions.

Distinct Factor Set B - Who would have thought?:
π Your Perfectionist shows a lot of brain activity in Region P4 of their brain. This part of the brain helps the Perfectionist to "holistically weigh numerous pros and cons of many uncertain or risky factors or options at once to arrive at a single result" according to neuroscience expert Dario Nardi.

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16. Can it be the Enhancer - INTJ?

The Enhancer is the Afghan Hound

General Principles to follow: Connecting with the Enhancer often starts in the mind before it starts in the heart. This pattern shies away from rapid-fire questioning or people who seem overly intrusive or nosy. They enjoy discussing ideas, theories and insights more than they enjoy chit-chat or small talk. Sometimes they also connect over shared causes or recreational activities. They can enjoy tapping into their Extraverted Sensing side with others through playing games, going to concerts or doing a physical activity such as kayaking or fishing (depending on the Enhancer of course.

Activities That Encourage Connection:
π Discussing your favorite books.
π Listening to each other’s favorite songs.
π Taking a class together.
π Playing strategy games together.
π Joining a book club together.
π Doing a recreational activity together (kayaking, fishing, sports, table tennis, etc,.).
π If you are already friends or in a relationship, do something like start a garden and tend to it together.
π Wander nature together.

Activities That Discourage Connection:
π Being too nosey, clingy or meddling.
π Scheduling their time for them.
π Surprising them unexpectedly.
π Being hypersensitive.
π Manipulating or having ulterior motives.
π Dwelling on small-talk excessively.
π Showing little interest in theories or abstract ideas.
π Being closed-minded.
π Lack of interest in personal growth.

Distinct Factor Set A - Propensity to Never Give Up:
π Has the ability to step back during struggles and apply logic and insight to the situation.
π Is a visionary with great ambition and determination to succeed.
π Knows how to set emotional turmoil aside and take charge, problem-solve and come up with innovative strategies to overcome difficulties.
π Is also stubborn. Is going to accomplish their goals even if it kills them.
π Needs not to forget to take time to understand own emotions and stress-levels after a particularly challenging moment has passed.

Distinct Factor Set B - Who would have thought?:
π Your Enhancer scores higher on Responsibility on the California Psychological Inventory tool in comparison with other MBTI types. This means that the Enhancer tends to be reliable, ethically perceptive and serious about their duties and obligations.

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